As much as we might hate feeling bad, bad feelings are actually good. And so much so, that they are to show us, believe it or not, that we feel bad. And this is very important, as obvious as it might seem, because feeling bad is the BIG WARNING SIGN that somethings not right within us.
Ideally when we feel bad, we should STOP EVERYTHING, and not go on. The stop light is flashing, something is wrong, stop and don’t take another step. What is it, what is wrong — why are we feeling bad. So something that’s natural we mostly hate and do everything we can to avoid. We all do things and say things to avoid, dismiss and push our bad feelings away. They are unwanted, detested, a bother; they get in the way stopping us feeling good and getting on with our lives. They are nuisance, a pest, frustrating, annoying - nasty rotten things. |
Most of what we do in our lives, if you think about it, is based on bad feeling avoidance. All we do is trying to make ourselves feel good. And isn’t that what life is about, doing everything to make yourself feel good? But life has that nasty way of sneaking in the bad things, so one way or another those dam bad feelings keep popping up. So put your head down and work harder at getting rid of them by making your life more enjoyable. You could even go so far as to accuse bad feelings of being evil, the devil's work, and it's always out there trying to get you. And your life is one of perpetual war, always fighting off the evil ones — your bad feelings. |
But who wants to feel bad? I doubt anyone does, and simply because, when you feel bad — you feel bad. And feeling bad is YUK! And yet it’s a natural part of life.
And they tend to feed on themselves. If you go with them, well, if you're angry, you get angrier, miserable, you feel worse, depressed, you feel like you’re fallen down a hole never to return. They are very scary, all that pain, often threatening to overwhelm, consume, and take over. So as soon as they start, if you can, quickly get rid of them. Then you’ll be feeling good again.
So a headache comes on, quick get the pills to get rid of it. A strange persistent throbbing in your leg, quick off to the doctor. Someone tells you a bad thing that happened to them, ‘our cat got run over yesterday’, freak out, what do you do, you commiserate, sympathise and quickly try and find something better to talk about - So are you going to get a new kitten? You get a fright, quickly you look to see what gave it to you, oh that’s all it was, that’s okay, nothing to feel bad about. Your child trips falling over. Quickly, stop the pain, take all the bad feelings away, ‘It’s nothing bad, you’re okay, no need to cry, it didn’t hurt’. |
So whether you use words, take pills, have operations; use sex, work, your family, television, videos, the phone, shopping, eating, chatting with friends, mostly what you do is done to avoid bad feelings; or if you do feel bad, to get rid of them as quickly as you can. But bad feelings - all feelings - are in fact good and required to help you live a healthy, balanced and enriched life. So how about considering the idea of: instead of doing all you can to deny your bad feelings, you go the other way; doing all you can to allow yourself to feel them, because after all, they are a part of you. |
And then to even possibly consider going a step further.
And not only allowing yourself to have them, but to even... WANT THEM!
Oh my god, could you imagine actually wanting to feel bad.
Have you gone in insane?
And not only allowing yourself to have them, but to even... WANT THEM!
Oh my god, could you imagine actually wanting to feel bad.
Have you gone in insane?
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