What are you?
Our feelings, good and bad, are our self.
So among all that you are, you are your feelings.
Our feelings, good and bad, are our self.
So among all that you are, you are your feelings.
So if you deny but one feeling, then you are denying a part of yourself. You are hitting yourself on your head saying, no, I don’t want that part of myself, I don’t like you - I hate you! You’re not saying: I love that part of myself, I love all of myself. Many people do all sorts of self-help things, but if you look into what these things consist of, you’ll see it’s yet more ways to deny your bad feelings, to hit yourself on the head more, saying no to these very important aspects of yourself. We all long to ONLY FEEL GOOD. And why not, it’s entirely reasonable. But it is at the expense of a huge part of ourselves. You may as well be saying: I love all of myself... except my left arm, so I’ll just chop that off and get a better one, one I love, yes, that’s right, yes, now I feel a lot better. |
So perhaps we only get sick because illness is when we’ve denied ourselves — our bad feelings (and often even good ones too) to such a degree that our body and whole system is saying enough is enough. You can’t go on denying and so rejecting yourself like this. You are making yourself sick!
So our feeling denial makes us feel sick, and feeling sick we feel bad, so more bad feelings to deny and reject, and so that should lead us to feel even sicker. And it does, only mostly we manage to ‘heal’ ourselves of our illness and pain, remove the ‘causes’ of our problems, and live on believing we’ve overcome the crisis and we feel good again. But we’re still denying bad feelings, nothing has changed within ourselves concerning this approach and treatment of ourselves, so one day, your system will have you show you again that it can’t go on, and something is very wrong. So one day, you'll get sick again. |
True self love is NO FEELING DENIAL WHATSOEVER!
And I can hear your screams as those bad feelings flood into you: but that means I’ll be feeling bad forever, and possibly more than I feel good. NOOOOOOOOOOO! I have to get rid of my bad feelings, they are bad, they make me feel bad and I hate feeling bad. I want to feel good, only good, good all the time. NOOOOOOOOOO, I never want to feel bad!
Which is fine, but you’ll still be denying a large part of yourself. And the trouble with denying any part of yourself, is, it makes you feel bad. So can you see the problem? You feel bad, so you deny your bad feelings hoping to not feel bad, but in denying your bad feelings, you’re making yourself feel bad. And you can even go so far as to say, that the ONLY reason you actually do feel bad, is, because you are denying bad feelings. So if you’d grown up never denying one feeling, being completely self and so feeling-accepting, you’d not feel bad because you’d not be denying any bad feelings. |
So what can you do?
If we are perhaps meant to accept all our bad feelings instead of denying them, how can we deal with them, how will we be able to cope in life. How will be able to go on and keep functioning doing all we need to do if we're allowing ourselves to feel bad all the time. And won't we just be swamped and overwhelmed by them. There will be too many of them - oh it's all too much to think about. But what if we can get to the point of feeling good by accepting ALL our feelings and not denying any of them. So can it be done, can we live a different way to our programming. Can we actually heal ourselves through the ongoing acceptance of our bad feelings? And I believe we can. |
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